A person's life values and perceptions are mostly influenced by their parents and surroundings. This is a well-known and once again proven fact. I was watching TV today and saw this talk show about parenting. One Japanese lady said:" Once my dad bought a $300 000( TW dollar) car and drove out met an accident. The whole car was totally useless after that. Just sent to recycle." Miraculously her dad was unharmed without even a scratch. But for such an expensive new car of course everyone will at least feel a bit heartache right? But the first thing her mum said was:" Thank God. Your dad is fine. Anything else doesn't matter we can settle later on." A human's life is more important than a bunch of metal right?How the parent's first reaction towards the situation is very important. If it is positive like that Japanese lady's mum, it is a very good example for children. The child will most likely grow up to be warm, affectionate and have compassion for people.
Personally, I have experienced two very different situations in cars. Once was during a sudden emergency break , my mum put out her arms and try to use her body to cover and protect me. I was on the passenger seat beside her then. I was really really touched. In my family whenever there is car accident whether minor or major we are all very concern about the well being of everyone. What happen to the car? Who cares. Make sure the person is alright first then talk about the car. I always thought this was a fact and everyone will react the same way.
However on one occasion I was in a car with someone and their parents. It really gave me a very very bad impression and from then on it totally changed my view about them. It really shows the true colour about people under drastic situations. We stop at a traffic light and was hit by a car from that back out of no where. The car at the back have been speeding very fast in the rain. I was sitting at the back of the car. That instant I was stunned for a second but quickly recover myself.
Frankly speaking, I was never ever in a car and met with any minor car accident before. Not even a scratch. Thanks to those careful lucky drivers. It was a frightening experience. When everything was well and ur mind was relaxed and suddenly a force hit against you unexpectedly. Anyway, immediately I look around and make sure everyone is OK. Everyone is well, the car was hit in the rear a bit. Thats all. Nothing serious. I turned my head look out and saw the driver who knocked into us move her car to the side and ......Bang!!! She was knocked by another car from the back. I saw the 1st driver's head swing and knock into the front. I let out: "Oh my! I hope she is ok. " But what shock me through my spine was the parent sitting on my side at the back passenger seat. She opened her mouth and cursed the first driver for knocking into us. And continued to say serve her right if anything happened to the 1st driver cause she injured their new car. I am like.... OMG......have I been socializing with such evil people all the while?
I know people can always hide their true intentions and show what they want ppl to see. But...at that instant true colour came out. My initial reaction is to run out of the car, check everything ok or not and run across the road and see that driver. Call the ambulance or what. She seemed to be knocked out. But I did not. I sat there...........too stunned to move. A million things ran through my head. I can't say I am a sane. But as a human must have the minimal humanity, like showing some concern for the life and death for another human being. It is just like leave someone to die on the road and drive off when u can actually help. ( at least call ambulance or the police).
Through this experience, i was deeply shaking. In this world, there are really people with no compassion. Which literally mean evil and selfish. Have compassion for people. By giving you will gain more. There is always this cycle of karma going round. You may wished that someone will help you some day in the future when you are the one lying in a pool of blood.
I feel so thankful and grateful I have great parents, loving family and friends. Choose your friends wisely and beware.
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