Study confirms mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces

It has been my habit to open up the various online newspaper first thing in the morning. Reading all the headlines while I brush away. It may seen weird ( yucks to some ppl) to brush teeth while surfing. I prefer to multi-task - it is the specialty of women. *^-^*~~ My this special technique of brushing and walking around with tooth brush in my mouth amazed my friend. She wondered how I manage to do it. Bubbles and slimy stuff will be dripping down from her mouth if she do the same. Haha~ All I can say is : I wonders too.

Came across this interesting news article:
Study confirms mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces/ " Monster-in-laws" ( this was the title given last night when this article came out. I guess they have to change it not too often the other nice in-laws around.)

Wednesday May 27, 2009

By YENG AI CHUN

KUALA LUMPUR: Every married person knows it, but a local study has confirmed it – mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces, especially in the Indian community.

Data in the Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) revealed that “meddlesome in-laws” is the number one reason why Indian couples get divorced.

It is also among the top three factors for divorce among the Malays and Chinese. The other two factors are incompatibility (42.3%) and infidelity (12%).

The forever never ending mother-daughter-in-law saga has been going on for ever since there is written human history. Open up ur tv: Chinese, Malay, Indian, Korean, Japanese, US, British...etc. How many dramas from different countries and different cultures base their story line of this? Answer is : 100%.

For my own Chinese culture, it is a famous matter of fact thing that mother-in-laws love to find trouble with daughter-in-laws. Reason: Too many some even too ridiculous to mention because if you hear it I am afraid you might not be able to breath from laughing. Remember those Chinese dramas about poor little daughter-in-laws being bullied by monster-mother-in-laws? And how popular those tv dramas become. Everynight all the housewives in the country will be watching it and nodding their heads as the story progress. They finds sympathy in these types of shows.

I am very glad that my own grandma is a very nice and generous person who don't find fault with people just for the fun of it or to prove her authority in the family. Every Qing Ming when the Chinese sweep their graveyards. Everyone have great memories of her as a great lady and how we miss her. But likewise I do hear all sorts of stories about monster mother-in-laws around. Their range of scary stories are true horros. Their fate: rich or poor, pretty or ugly, famous or not. They all die alone. Nobody wants to be with them. Only a few who felt it is their duty or for the sake of face accompany them. They got what they do not want the most: to be alone. This is just all facts I hear from people around. Actual fact? Not too sure, but base on this random data it could be 80% accurate.

This is a real issue in the society. I heard of aunties mensioning their world famous monster-mother-in-law who got black listed by some air-lines. Wow.... Sometimes as someone from the side you can see. The couple are happily married with 2 kids with good income and enjoy their life. Go to Church and visit their in-laws every weekends. It seens like a normal peaceful family but why do these mother-in-laws become monsters? They just brought the whole family into dispute and not only earning themselves a bad name. The whole family was broken up into pieces thanks to them.

Right now even conservative country like Malaysia news also report:
Study confirms mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces
This means that there are quite a big percentage of monster mother-in-laws then. Oh wow... From what I see and hear it is around 30% but it is a lot already. Guess it really depends on your luck. So...girls beware.

Ultimately everyone wants to be happy. But giving other people a hard life you will never get what you want. Instead you might lose it all. Remember the fate of those monster-mother-in-laws in drama? Desperate Housewives: Gabby's mother-in-law die in a hit and run accident, Chinese drama : suffer major illness and finally got to herself and reformed to be a better person. Everyone have a happy ending. Why people write such scrips? Maybe thats the wish of majority viewers. Make those monsters disappear.

I hope all married people have a great life and parents who got son and daughter-in-laws treat them well. They are your own sons and daughters too not just by law. Thats the ultimate gate way to happiness. You give punch you get a slash back. You give a smile you get a hug back.